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Comment on Blockage by Mom

Mom — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 22:49:07 +0000

When there are no words to express the pain we pray. We pray for time and for healing. Both are miracles. No matter how long I have worked in nursing, it is a never ending source of comfort and renewal for me that there is an amazing strength in others, for compassion, for loving, for tenderness and strength. We all only have each moment as it comes, none of us know what we will be called on to do in it, or how it will change the next, but we somehow are able to move forward. It is knowing that we have those around us with that strength, compassion, love, tenderness and strength that lets us know the beauty that surrounds us, that will support us when we need it, love us when we need it the most. I am humbled by the courage I see in others and grateful that they touch my life.

Comment on Blockage by Midwest Mommy

Midwest Mommy — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 20:11:33 +0000

I get what you are saying. When a blogfriend’s child died early this year I haven’t stopped thinking like this since. It’s hard. I think about her each time I yell at my kids.

Comment on Blockage by The Devoted Dad

The Devoted Dad — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 02:30:11 +0000

I truly understood and felt your post. I too have these anxieties. I work in a childrens hospital and see many happy and many sad things. I am thankful for what God has given me. Also- I am in total agreement about the Twilight thing. What’s with the long pauses and apathetic mood. Maybe it was me- but thought it was definitely a different acting style.

Comment on Blockage by Heather

Heather — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 17:23:13 +0000

I struggle with these same fears. Every time I hear of a child passing on the fear comes back stronger. I don’t have any answers, other than we try to do the best we can and not smother our kids with the fear. We all screw up sometimes, we all take some things for granted at least once in a while. If we are mindful and grateful most of the time, we’re doing well.

Comment on Blockage by Chandra Dunbar

Chandra Dunbar — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 15:45:55 +0000

I have often wondered in my own life if the gift of empathy that I seem to have been born with is a blessing or a curse. When I watch people struggle I feel their pain in a way that takes ahold and sometimes does not let go. When my cousin was killed his death changed something in me that I wasn’t even aware of until I had children of my own. All of the sudden I was faced with knowing that bad things can and do happen to children. Sometimes we are powerless to stop these events. I know I am a better mother to my children because Nicolas taught me that our time together is borrowed. That is the blessing. The curse is that sometimes the fear seizes me up in a way I can’t even explain. Of course, you never can know exactly what a parent who is facing a serious illness or death with their child is really going through. I do think there are those of us though who can feel their grief in such a way that part of it becomes our own.

As you watch your cousin and your family struggle, I know you feel so many emotions that move you in so many ways. Their anxiety, grief, exhaustion, terror and sorrow become yours. The only thing I have ever found is to share that those around you and use it to teach you to hold a little tighter to your own children. Getting frustrated with you kids is part of being a parent. Using those feelings you are having to make you slow down and kiss them one more time or snuggle them a little longer at night is your tribute to the struggle your family is facing.

I honor Nicolas by being the best mother I can. His lives when I remember to celebrate the lives of my kids and how blessed I am to have them right now.

We also know that the hopeless only seems hopeless. Your cousin is in one of those situations where we really have very little power. Miracles are miracles because they occur when hope disappears. Hang on to that and honor her by loving those around you more.

I will be praying for her, you and your whole family. Remember, I am always here. Call whenever!!

Comment on Eyes Wide by Blockage « Growing A Pair

Blockage « Growing A Pair — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 06:17:34 +0000

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Comment on A Heart. A Heart. My Kingdom for a Heart. by Blockage « Growing A Pair

Blockage « Growing A Pair — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 06:17:31 +0000

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Comment on Moody B. Jones by Mom

Mom — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 03:08:38 +0000

Kindergarten and the Senior year of High School. Just get a xanax script.

Comment on Moody B. Jones by Heather

Heather — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 21:19:50 +0000

Still lots of drama from my almost 7-year-old, but that’s to be expected since she’s a girl. My son has been falling apart a lot lately too. I expect it to be even worse the entire first quarter of Kindergarten too since he’ll be exhausted. Good times.