I just got off the phone with my student loan company, and I can’t even describe how angry I am. I am so angry I am crying. I am so angry that I just want to crawl in a hole. I have no words for this angry. Only a lot of vowels.
History: I paid my own way through college. Twice. I worked all through school, sometimes two and three jobs at a time. I had scholarships, and student loans. I went to a good public school. I graduated with honors alllllllmost on time. I did not party excessively, and I was pretty much a good egg. There were many times when I had no clue whether or not I would be able to stay in college. Times when I just took whatever classes I could get, because I could not register until the last minute– because I didn’t have the money to register or buy books. I don’t think most people knew just how little money I had to get through school, or how close I was to losing it all several times.
In grad school, I had an assistantship that paid my tuition, room and board, and a small stipend. But of course, I still had car payments and other expenses. My assistantship required that I could not hold other employment, so I had to take loans for some of my living expenses. I went without health insurance for two years because most grad students do— it is so expensive to insure yourself, that most folks just gamble. I lost that gamble my second year of grad school, when I ended up with $2,000 in medical debt.
If you are thinking to yourself “well, it’s a good thing you went to college so you could stay home with your kids,” here is what I would like you to do:
- Find the nearest mirror, and stand in front of it
- Look yourself in the face
- Tell yourself out loud to fuck off
- Punch yourself in the face at least twice. Hard.
Anyway.
When I left college, I had debt. Most people do. I had what is considered a fairly low debt– $22,000. Today, 65% of college undergrads graduate with an average of $25,000 in student debt. So, to owe what I owe AND have a Masters, I did pretty well.
Once I got a job, I set up a repayment plan with my student loan holder. Because I was making peanuts when I graduated (yay for the field of education!), I chose the lowest amount possible. Interest rates at that time were shit. But I didn’t have anyone standing in line to help me with that debt, so I had to take what was offered.
And that pretty much brings us to today. Today, when I thought to myself “Man, I am THISCLOSE to paying off that student loan, I think. Lemme check on that!”
Today, I found out some wonderful gems about the “help” I received.
- My projected pay-off date is in 2020. YES. FUCKING TWENTY TWENTY. Motherfuckers.
- On my current course of action, that help will end up costing me $21,557 in interest. YES. THAT IS ABOUT THE EXACT AMOUNT OF THE ORIGINAL LOAN.
- Students can only consolidate their student loans ONCE. So, even though interest rates are HALF what they were when I consolidated in 2000, too fucking bad for me. So sorry. I cannot re-consolidate.
- When I asked them how it was possible that I have paid off TWO CARS in the time that I have only reached they halfway point of this loan, I discovered that it is a different kind of loan. It costs me roughly $2.43 every. single. day. to owe this money.
- Banks will not lend you money so that you can pay off this horrible rape of a loan and pay their slightly less abusive rates instead.
Goddammit I am so angry.
Some of it is old anger. All through school, most of my friends had help paying for school. Many of my friends did not work. Many of my friends partied all the damn time and drove decent cars and did not shop at the Salvation Army for their winter coat. And they skipped school and made shit grades and they never had to worry that they might lose their scholarship. That made me so. damn. angry at the time. I had to work so hard and watched while other people just pissed it away.
There are only so many times you can tell yourself that you are the better person because you knew the VALUE of college because you had to work for it. Only so many times you can tell yourself that that crap doesn’t matter. Lemme tell you, karma never rectifies this. Today, those folks live in bigger houses, drive nicer cars, etc because they didn’t start off their “real lives” paying off student debt.
Some of it is political anger– how in the world is this okay? How is it okay that once students make a repayment plan, they are not allowed to EVER, ever, ever get a lower rate? How is it that a population that is so ill-prepared and ill-educated about these loans and what it will take to repay them are taken advantage of so completely? How have we built a society where you pretty much HAVE to have a Bachelor’s degree to get work, and then made entry-level jobs so hard to get?
Some of it is anger at myself, for sure– I didn’t pay attention to this loan once I *was* old enough to make better payments. I actually didn’t even look at it, because other loans on the surface seemed to be smarter to pay off. I’m angry that I’m not a whiz at this kind of stuff.Finances are one of the areas of adulthood that it seems like everyone else “gets” but me (and I know this isn’t true, lots of us are idiots about money, but that’s what it FEELS like.)
I’m trying to get my house in order in 2012. My body, my finances, and my ACTUAL house. But it’s hard, because a lot of these issues evoke an emotional response. A great big “DAMMIT!” that I can’t really do anything about other than work to correct from here on out. It evokes feelings about how much of that crap is determined by factors that are completely out of your control, and feelings about how ignorance twenty years ago continues to fuck you over today.
And I know that I was fortunate to be able to go to college at all. And I know that life is not fair. And I know I could have made better choices. And I know I can change things and better the situation. I know.
But I still feel so freaking angry, you know?









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January 17, 2012 at 8:07 pm
Kelly Beckman-Crabtree
Ditto.
January 17, 2012 at 8:10 pm
Melanie
I would be pissed too… that is total crap (is it all banks that will not grant loans to pay off student debt??? Just curious.. I had better luck getting a loan from a small bank once, but it was a different situation). Clearly we need reform in the student loan arena, you are right to call it a rape loan.
I am fortunate, I was able to find full-time employment that paid 60% of my tuition if I made a B or higher… and because I worked full-time I just barely had enough of my own money to pretty well pay the remaining 40% (I put my tuition on a regular old credit card each semester, and books, and then paid all I could monthly until the grade card came back and the check was written to pay my employer’s “portion”…. because life happens, sometimes I didn’t get that 40% paid off during a semester and I walked out of college owing about 4,000 but man I know how flipping lucky I was. It was a trade-off to be sure, I didn’t get to go away to school, I went to weekend/evening classes where I rarely, if ever, had anyone my own age in class and I was EXHAUSTED from running straight from an 8-9 day at work to a 3 1/2 hour class 3 nights a week and the rest of the nights were spent doing homework so my social life was just about as close to null as it possibly can be…… but I suppose if you think about it, 18-21 are the years in which you can push yourself like that.
I will say that the first bullet points made me laugh… I am also a college graduate who stays home and I have heard many a comment about how I am wasting my education. If only I could hold up your list every time someone mentions it LOL
January 17, 2012 at 8:14 pm
bailann
The people that have no (or very little) college debt have NO idea how lucky they are.
Amen to all of this.
Society is beyond messed up but let’s make the poor pay more taxes, anyway.
January 17, 2012 at 11:08 pm
Amanda
I feel your pain. While I love that I’m a KU Alum, that one piece of paper for my undergrad cost me nearly $40,000 (this is on top of the $20,000 from Avila University my first 2 1/2 years of school that I consolidated in 2004) … why? because even though I was a resident of Kansas long enough, KU refused to see me as a Kansas resident and I therefore had to pay out of state tuition. I was a single mom working a part time student job to pay my living expenses and used loans for the tuition. It was naive of me to stay but I just wanted that piece of paper because, like you said, a bachelor’s degree is required for almost any job out there these days. Sadly, even as a two income household, I have yet to pay on my federal loans as they gather interest because I am paying so much on my ‘private loans’ per month. I had to get private loans because the gov’t would not give me enough money to cover the outrageous out-of-state tuition I was stuck with at KU. So I’ll be dead and there will be loans left to pay. I soooo feel your pain.
January 17, 2012 at 11:55 pm
Becca
Imagine trying to deal with the asshats when you have to decide to pay your child’s medical bills so they can continue to see the doctors or pay your effing student loans and being told you “make too much” to be in foreberrance but you don’t make enough to refinance. Fuck the whole process. That Masters was supposed to get me a better paying job…unless the whole world goes to hell 2 months after graduation.
January 18, 2012 at 5:23 pm
Rachael
This is so not okay. So, our economy is bad. Most jobs require a college degree, but to get one the majority of people need student loans. You owe tens of thousands of dollars and that allows you not to get a job, but to COMPETE for a job. You have some chance, without the degree you have no chance. So we send our young adults out into the world with a huge debt already to shoulder and expect them to figure out how to make it, and to keep our society running while they’re at it. What a load of crap. I’m sorry.
January 24, 2012 at 12:58 am
Heather in WA State
Thank you for this post. I am in my 40′s and thinking about going back to school, but I question if it is the right decision. Will the investment, the debt, and the time pay off? Will I even break even by retirement age? Would it just be better to work a lower paying job full time for the next 25 years, vs. only part time work while I’m in school, and then graduate with no guarantee of even getting a higher paid job, and be saddled with huge debt for years?
And what about my kids? I have two kids, ages 10 & 12, and wouldn’t I rather invest money in their educations instead of my own? I’d just be finishing my degree when the older one starts college. How can I help her if I’m in debt and never home because I’m working 3 jobs while waiting to land “THE job” that I went back to school to get qualified for?
I went to college 20 years ago, got a degree that started me on a good career, then I took time off to care for my family, and now my education and career experience is no longer “relevant.” I went to the local college to apply and learned that I’d have to do over a year of pre-reqs because it had been more than 5 years since I last took this science and that math, blah, blah, blah. Then, after completing the pre-reqs, there’s only a 20% chance I’d get into the degree program I want, because there is so much competition.
What would you do?
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February 3, 2012 at 12:18 am
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Thank you so much for this post….I spent the day dealing with my anger on this subject. I received paperwork that I could consolidate my childrens student loans and started researching. Not only did I find out that I (an American citizen) cannot ask for this “wonderful Obamanation” because I got the wrong type of student loans for my kids…….HELLO….I am an American….I pay taxes…..I have been married to the same man for 33 years and have been working hard since I was 16. My kids worked their way through college….acquired student debt in order to get an education…..did not get pregnant, steal from the government, sell drugs, etc. etc. Why in hell can’t they (I) get a break on their student loans????? I am tired of paying taxes to benefit the rich and feed the poor….I have my own bills and I pay them myself….why can’t I consolidate what I will be paying off???? I am not asking for you to pay them off…..I am so sick of this government and think if foreigners are getting free rides on my dime, then it’s time our own children catch a break.